For most, the holidays are a season of togetherness, moments filled with laughter, storytelling and shared moments. But for those suffering the effects of hearing loss, the holidays can become isolating and overwhelming. Addressing hearing loss with loved ones during this time can foster understanding, promote inclusivity, and create a more enjoyable experience for everyone.
Bringing up hearing loss, however, requires some tact and sensitivity. Let’s take a look at some strategies for approaching the topic with your loved ones with care and empathy.
It Begins with Empathy
Before bringing up the subject, it’s likely best to consider your loved one’s perspective. Hearing loss can evoke many emotions and feelings that can include frustration, denial and embarrassment. Starting the conversation from a place of empathy can help you to set a positive tone for the conversation. Here’s how:
- Listen First: Ask your loved one how they’ve been feeling during these gatherings and social situations. Do they find it difficult to follow conversations? This may open the door for them to share their experiences.
- Validate Their Feelings: Acknowledge their challenges without making them feel self-conscious. For example, you could begin the conversation with, “I’ve noticed how hard it is to hear in noisy places; that must be really frustrating.”
Choose the Right Setting
Picking the right time and environment can significantly impact how the conversation unfolds. It’s best to avoid having the conversation during big moments like holiday dinners or get-togethers.
Here are a couple of things to mindful of before speaking to your loved one:
- Pick a quiet space that’s suitable for a one-on-one conversation. Choosing a calm over chaos can help your loved one relax and feel more comfortable to talk.
- Try to be mindful of the timing. Aim to initiate the discussion when they’re relaxed and not preoccupied with hosting duties or holiday stress.
Frame the Conversation Positively
Approaching the topic with humor or positivity can help to reduce defensiveness. Some tactics might include emphasizing how addressing hearing loss can only enhance the holidays for them. You can mention how being able to hear better will allow them to fully enjoy the conversations, jokes, and stories of the friends and family around them.
Instead of framing hearing loss as a problem, you can discuss how solutions like hearing aids can improve upon the quality of their life. For example, you might use something like “Wouldn’t it be great to catch every word from the grandkids this year?”
Use Personal Stories and Examples
For some, sharing real-life examples that can help your loved one see the importance of addressing their hearing loss.
- Personalize the Impact: Bring up specific instances where their hearing challenges may have caused confusion or a missed moment like mishearing a grandchild or struggling during group conversations.
- Share Success Stories: If you or someone else in the family has addressed their hearing loss, share how it positively impacted their life. Try to avoid making comparisons that might feel accusatory, instead focusing on words that inspire and support.
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Involve the Family
Hearing loss rarely affects only the person struggling with the malady. Bringing in the support of family and friends can make a huge difference in how your loved one perceives the discussion.
Coordinate with siblings or other close family members about how to approach the subject as a family. Make sure everyone is on the same page to avoid overwhelming your loved one. A loving approach can help to reinforce the importance of the message.
Be Prepared for Resistance
Not everyone will be ready to open up about their hearing loss. It’s essential to handle resistance with patience and understanding.
- Avoid Confrontation: If your loved one denies the issue, you can try to change course by gently sharing observations instead of pushing the topic. For example, you could say, “I noticed you had a little trouble hearing during dinner last night. Do you think it’s worth getting it checked out?”
- Stay Supportive: Let them know you’re there to help, whether it’s finding resources or attending a hearing exam with them.
Offer Practical Solutions
Sometimes, the best way to approach these discussions is to provide actionable steps to make the conversation more productive. Some suggestions might include:
- Suggesting a hearing exam
- Exploring new technology together (researching hearing aids, hearing exams, etc.)
- Encouraging them to set goals
- Offering to help them with seating during gatherings
- Developing group conversation strategies that might include signals or a cheat sheet to help everyone communicate
Create a Supportive Environment During the Holidays
Even if your loved one isn’t quite ready to address their hearing loss, you can take steps to make holiday gatherings more inclusive and comfortable for them. Consider simple changes like turning off music or TV during important events to make conversations easier. Speak slowly, facing them when talking, and avoid shouting. Smaller conversations can also ease some of the challenges they face and make it easier for the affected to participate in conversations.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if a loved one is struggling with hearing loss?
Look for signs like frequent requests to repeat yourself, listening to the TV or music at high levels, or withdrawal from group conversations.
What should I avoid when discussing hearing loss with my loved one?
Typically, it’s best to approach the conversation from a place of empathy and sincerity. Avoid making jokes, minimizing their struggles, or framing the conversation like an accusation; focus instead on providing support and solutions.
What do I do if my loved one refuses to talk about their hearing?
It’s important to respect their boundaries while continuing to show your support. Try bringing up the topic gently at a later date and stay focused on discussing situations where clear hearing is crucial.
Are hearing aids the only solution with hearing loss?
While hearing aids are effective, there are a variety of options available such as cochlear implants, assistive listening devices, and communication strategies which can also help with hearing loss.
Can hearing loss worsen if left untreated?
Yes. Untreated hearing loss can lead to social isolation, cognitive decline, and reduced quality of life. Early intervention is critical for minimizing the effects of hearing loss on your daily life.
How can I help someone to feel more included during holiday gatherings?
Reducing background noise, engaging them in one-on-one conversations, and using visual cues to make communication easier can all help to make someone experiencing hearing loss feel more included.
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It’s important to remember that there’s no utility in waiting to have this conversation with your loved one. While addressing hearing loss during the holidays can feel daunting, it’s a conversation worth having. By approaching the topic with kindness and empathy, you can help them to really enjoy the holiday season.
Don’t wait for another holiday to go by without speaking to them about their hearing. Call us today to schedule an appointment with one of our experienced specialists who can help provide testing and support throughout this process.
